Jadin Made His Momma Proud.

You know how every mom is hoping that her kids will take the lessons they have been taught and put them to good use in new situations? That has been my hope, too. I want to not only correct their behaviour at the moment but also to teach them principles they can use later in life to base their decisions on. Like, taking responsibility for their action.
So, I come back to the nursery after a workout the other day and this volunteer tells me she's been having a hard time with Jadin. No, nothing terrible. He was just being a 5 yo he is. There was another boy his age and they were playing kind of loud. She told them over and over to quiet down. And Jadin would, for about 3 minutes. And then he would start again. I know the other boy, and I understand why it was hard. We had had a similar situation with another boy before. They both ended up in time out three times. It's interesting how kids' reactions differ depending on the ammount of dicsipline they get at home. He was opently defiant. He even thretened me (he said that his mom beats up teachers). Jadin was having a hard time with it. It's hard not to react when someone keeps stirring up trouble. So when we got home that night I explained to him that having to be put in time out three times is not acceptable. I told him that when someone gets in trouble he needs to walk away and find a puzzle or some colors. And then he got a spanking. Next time the boy came in Jadin stayed away from him. Someone pointed that out and said how amaized they were to see that kind of change in a 5yo.
So, back to that situation the other day. I asked Jadin to come and talk to me. I explained what I was told about him and that next time he will need to quiet down the first time he is told. That he is only responsible for HIS OWN actions, regardless of what other kids do and that if it happens again he will be given another spanking. He listened quietly. When we were done talking I went to get Daniel and Rachael and I see him apologizing to the volunteer and giving her a hug. No, I didn't tell him to do it. He did it by himself. The volunteer had tears in her eyes! My little guy is learning. He sure does make his momma proud.